The thoughts occurred to me today how grateful I am for a legacy of strong men in my family. Men who are driven, accomplished in their own rite. Men who encourage, support, and proudly speak of the strong, confident, accomplished women in their lives.
I am a firm, strong, vocal believer in biblical manhood and womanhood. I believe there is a place for the man to be head of household, the woman a supportive, equal partner–respectful to her husband.
I grew up in a world where there was no limit placed on me as to what I could do, who I could be, or what I could accomplish. I watched my father support my mother’s twenty-year, two-class-at-a-time quest for three degrees and a CPA. And I watched as he would furrow his brow those times I would downplay my own doctorate, saying that if people were intimidated by it, that was their issue. He would say there was no reason for me to play small. Humility, yes, but not downplayed.
A toast given in a television show encapsulates the world in which I grew up:
“I know who he is, but I forget sometimes because he never shines a light on himself. He shines it on other people. Anthropology teaches us the alpha male is the man wearing the crown, displaying the most colorful plumage and the shiniest bobbles; he stands out from the others. But I now think that anthropology may have it wrong…I’ve come to realize that the man who is always there for friends and family, that’s the real alpha male.” –from the television show, Bones
As in so much of life, we lag behind that which God has already laid forth. The alpha male that God describes is responsible, cares for his family, sacrifices himself in love as Christ loved the church, and seeks God humbly and diligently.
You may not have had the same supportive environment as I. You can, however, have the same God as I. The God I know created me with thoughts, drives, and ideas. he created me to learn and grow and bring people with me. And He commands me to be humble, thoughtful, and gentle in the process. And when the day comes, He calls me to respectfully submit to a husband who sacrificially loves me.
This God, if He is not already yours, can be. He longs for you to know Him as more than a miracle-maker, though He is that. He longs for you to begin grasping the depth of His love for you, the breadth of His grace.
“For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of god, being justified freely by His grace through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus, whom God set forth as a propitiation by His blood, through faith, to demonstrate his righteousness, because in His forbbearance God had passed over the sins that were previously committed, to demonstrate at the present time His righteousness, that He might be just and the justifier of the one who has faith in Jesus. –Romans 3:23-26, NKJV
Don’t feel worthy of such grace? You’re not. None of us are. He chose to pay the way for us, chose to pay the cost of our wretchedness, that when we believe in the sacrifice of Jesus can come to Him unhindered.
Come to Him. He is the Father that supports. He is the Father Who guides. And He is the Father Who created you to be all that you can be–and even more than that when you rely on Him, His strength, and His plan.
If you have questions about any of this, please leave a comment or send me a message. This truth is the most important thing you can learn today. Come to Him. he is waiting with open arms.
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